Dear person who left this note in my car,
Thanks for judging me when you don’t know me. What gives you the right to decide that I am not worthy of a disabled space?
I may look like a “normal” young woman but that’s because I try my best to fit into society and not let people know that I’m in pain. I’m not pretending to be sick, I’m pretending to be well.
I have numerous invisible health conditions. I have a rare genetic connective tissue disorder called Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. This is a multi systematic condition and affects everything from my brain, my joints, my heart, my bones, gastrointestinal system, in fact there is very little that it doesn’t affect! I also have other invisible illnesses such as gastroparesis, dysautonomia, raynauds and many more. I don’t shout about these as I’d like to live my life as best as I can. These conditions vary massively from day to day. I have carers, district nurses, lots of hospital consultants and appointments. I shouldn’t even be explaining myself to someone who is so judgemental but I feel it is necessary to educate you and your small mind. Next time you see someone and think they don’t deserve a disabled spot then why not ask what’s wrong? I’d prefer to explain how my conditions affect me to your face rather than be left an anonymous note. I’ve had two surgeries in the past 8 weeks and numerous infections including a spinal one I am currently fighting so I think I’m allowed to park a few steps closer to the door thanks.
Please think before you judge someone. You have no idea what’s going on in people’s lives!
Last night I was taken to hospital by ambulance after passing out and being unresponsive due to severe pain levels. Unfortunately once again I was faced with people who had never heard of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and didn’t know how to treat me. I was pricked with needles numerous times, even after saying I have a connective tissue disorder and have fragile veins and usually need a more permanent line for IV’s, I was left for hours without pain relief as they didn’t know what to give me after I had a cardiac arrest in November and unfortunately there was not a lot that could be done. I do not blame the medics as they were very busy and the staff were all very kind and wanting to help, but this shows how we need to raise more awareness of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome and all the other “rare” and invisible conditions out there. We need more specialists locally, not just in London. We need a clear care plan for when things like this do happen. We need help. We need AWARENESS!
I may not look sick on the outside but on the inside there is a different story so I decided to take a picture where I look “well” and write some of the conditions and symptoms I have that are invisible.