So lets be honest, although most of us probably don’t want to admit it, being judgemental seems to be human nature. I have judged people and I have been judged but we don’t know everyone’s story and it’s a sad trait to have. I guess a lot of it is to do with stereotyping. There are so many stereotypes out there and these seem to get passed from generation to generation and it really needs to stop.
I went to a hospital appointment recently with my carer and was waiting to park in the disabled bay. I’m a 25 year old woman with invisible disabilities and I was judged by two different people whilst waiting. A gentleman who was coming out of the bay wound his window down and made a hand gesture to call me a “w*nker” and an elderly woman who must have wanted the space called me a “silly cow” and waved her blue badge at me so I waved mine back at her! A similar thing happened to my friend recently. She is 18 and she was waiting for a disabled bay and an elderly woman wound her window down and told her that those bays were reserved for disabled people so she showed her badge and the lady then said that they were for “elderly people” and that she should go and park elsewhere.
Think about it. Have you been judged? Have you judged someone? We don’t know everyone’s individual story.
The really thin girl you assumed was anorexic may be desperately trying to put on weight or could be fighting an invisible illness that makes gaining weight difficult for her.
The guy you saw on crutches struggling to walk last week who is walking today may be suffering with a condition that varies massively, it doesn’t mean he was faking it.
Please try not to stare at the young girl in the wheelchair trying to figure out what is wrong with her.
The guy who has used the disabled toilet but looks “normal” could be suffering with IBD.
Not all disabilities are visible. Not all disabilities are the same. Think before you judge.
Love & hugs,
So I know I haven’t really posted for a little while, I’ve had quite a lot going on lately. I’ve been back in the hospital a few times again for gastro issues and also gynaecological problems. They finally seem to have gotten to the bottom of the pelvic pain that I’ve had for the past few months and I’ve had treatment for pelvic infections, kidney infections and urinary tract infections. I am still struggling at the moment but I am now on another course of antibiotics for 4 weeks.
Last week I saw my gastro doctor and he reviewed my previous MRI results. He explained that it showed I had a rectocele prolapse which I was aware of but it is a shame that after my surgery it hasn’t improved like some had hoped. We discussed an NG tube for feeding/fluids as I am struggling with my stomach at the moment as I feel as though I am always full and am getting very bad nausea and reflux, this is due to my delayed gastric empyting. His concern is that if I have an NG tube and my stomach isn’t emptying then it may not be beneficial, however he also said we won’t know until we try. He has put my on a 4 week course of antibiotics which are used for treatment of delayed gastric emptying and I am going to be seeing him again in 4 weeks.
My joints are causing me some pain at the moment. I have been trying to do some exercises to strengthen my legs and this seems to be helping me massively but my shoulders, hips etc are still very unstable. Last time I saw my physio he asked me what I’d done as my shoulder wasn’t in place and he seemed shocked when I said I’d just rolled over in bed but for someone with EDS this is our reality. A simple knock can cause injury and dislocations/subluxations. I had to have my shoulder taped up to try and keep it in place and it really helped but unfortunately I had a reaction to the tape so had to take it off and now the instability seems to be coming back.
Next week I have an appointment with my cardiologist and an appointment for a flexible cystoscopy which is when a camera is inserted to my bladder. My urologist wants to check that everything looks okay in my bladder and that I don’t have a blockage or narrowing which could be causing a lot of my problems. If everything looks okay and my previous MRI results are okay then my urologist wants me to have a sacral nerve implant fitted. I am very nervous about this after my last surgery and there are lots of things that need to be done before I go for the surgery.
I have managed to stay out of the hospital now for 2 whole weeks which may not sound like long but for me it’s amazing as I’ve been in a lot this year. I am so grateful for the amazing people I have in my life who help me on my journey. Here are a few photo’s!
Thank you for reading,
Love & hugs, Charlie x